AreI suppose it’s possible that you think I’ve gone completely mad by writing an article on how to re-establish a relationship by using text messages!
However although this may seem to be one of the more extreme pieces of dating advice you’ve ever received, it’s not quite as strange you might think.
One of the reasons that people breakup is because communication has failed. And the reason communication fails is because people’s emotions get in the way of clarity and understanding.
In other words, the emotional wounds that people carry with them come between them and clear communication to another person, and clear understanding of another person’s communication. When you also consider that anybody who is speaking to you is doing so through the overlay of their own emotional wounds, you can understand why it is sometimes so difficult to maintain harmony in a relationship.
Now most dating advice does talk about the importance of communication, but it seems to me that relationship advice like Text Your Ex Back (we’ll come to that in a moment) can be futile if it doesn’t take account of the fact that people are easily sucked back into the emotional issues that disrupted their well-being and their relationship in the first place.
Nothing destroys intimacy faster than emotional conflict, and nothing promotes emotional conflict faster than misunderstanding. When you can take the emotional aspect of communication out of the loop, and use a medium for messaging your partner that has little or no possibility of your emotional wounds getting in the way, then communication is much clearer, and misunderstanding much less likely.
You’ll see from my logic above, that this means that it’s extremely likely that you will be able to start rebuilding intimacy.
Intimacy and trust of the two foundation stones of any relationship, and they are essential before you can expect to have a good relationship. So where text messaging plays into this dynamic is that it removes the emotional aspect of communication and allows you to express your true feelings without the overlay of emotional wounds, outstanding issues, and unresolved conflict.
Text messaging is exemplified as a relationship builder in a program called Text Your Ex Back by Michael Fiore, which is the prime program on the Internet for either getting your ex back if you split up, or re-invigorating existing relationship which has become stale.
The reason it can work in either case is because the same processes required for reconstructing a relationship as renewing it: that is to say, the re-establishment of intimacy, trust and communication without the emotional overlay of the wounds that have sparked disruption or distance.
Now this may seem a little fanciful due at the moment, and I can quite understand that, but if you actually purchase a copy of Text Your Ex Back, it will all become much clearer to you.
One of the things that I really like about text your ex back is that it actually explains to you in the process of texting messages to your ex-boyfriend or texting messages to your ex girlfriend in such a way that you can start from a neutral, unthreatening message, and gradually build up to greater and greater levels of intimacy. As you do so, you can establish greater and greater levels of trust and connection, and hopefully at the same time higher and higher levels mutual respect and interest.
Intimacy can be hard-won within a relationship, and it’s probably true to say that most people are not very good at building it, so my suggestion to you is that if you’re in either of the categories that are mentioned, you seek out a copy of Mike Fiore’s program, and see if it can help you.